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4.5
Great Book- BUT I felt disappointed as Dr. Murray never mentions sociopathy or conscience-less-ness in the VERSION I read. The abusive boyfriends had the same traits (based in control and power) Every person who can love and feel guilt and remorse should know about the Type 1 sociopath as you probably have one in your life right now- Type 1 sociopaths have no conscience, but they rarely do anything illegal- immoral maybe, but not illegal. They can be the mean boss, belittling teacher, coworker who steals your idea, controlling, manipulative, isolating partner, etc. But these abusive men in But I Love Him all had the traits of sociopaths or rather: no conscience. She points out the traits- but doesn't inform us about sociopathy. Every parent should know the traits of the sociopath and teach it and/or learn it together with their teenagers BEFORE their teenagers fall in love with them. I have so many single mother friends whose ex- boyfriends molested their children. When I inquired more about these men, they all showed these mothers so many traits of sociopathy BEFORE the mothers brought them home to meet the children. They just didn't know the traits. And it is not their fault- Society and mental health professionals rarely inform us of these types of individuals- so we marry them- go into business with them- and get BURNED! If they know the traits- they will SEE these individuals coming a mile away- They charm their prey with their great charm, looks, sex appeal, talent, humor, and/or wealth and then hook them. Then they get into their psyche and later spoon out all of their self-worth, self esteem, and perhaps finances.They secretly want to ruin them. Then the abuse starts- It's the same! In this book- we see the traits over and over again- But Jill doesn't inform you about the traits of the conscience-less person and perhaps now the subject is more known and she does as this book version I read was written a while ago- Anyway- if you already know all about sociopathy, type 1 sociopathy and psychopathy- AND then you read this book- IT IS EVEN BETTER! Since you know the traits- then reading this book is just watching them (or individuals who have consciences BUT learned SP behavior) in action! Also, we don't have label anyone as being conscience-less, we can love them and pray for them from a distance. When we see the traits of power, control, blaming everyone but themselves, etc., we will know to stay away! Let us educate ourselves on the traits of sociopathy, type 1 sociopathy, psychopathy, narcissistic personality disorder, and anti social personality disorder- the traits are almost all the same! After you do this- You will see the traits in people everywhere! Then read this book- you will see how they work! I hope she updated this book to include the traits of the conscience-less as that is what we are reading about all throughout her excellent book! I say this with all due respect to her- Great work!
